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Relational Growth Challenges are opportunities to influence your relationship for the better, with or without your partner's participation. Each exercise can help you deepen awareness and increase the positive impact you have on your connection.
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Relational Growth Challenge: Hug

Hugs are healing. In one fell swoop, they equalize power struggles, level the playing field and awaken our softness and vulnerability within the container of trusted arms. Hugging is an action between two people where the arrows of giving and receiving go both ways, instantaneously changing our brain chemistry, soothing us, and shifting our mindset from one of scarcity and isolation to one of grat . . .


A Different Response

A Different Response Take a moment to think about one specific thing you wanted and didn't get from your partner today. Was it a hug? Extended eye-contact with no digital devices magnetizing your partner's attention? The words, "Thank you for doing that"? How did you react when you didn't get what you wanted? Did you dismiss your own desire? Grow irritable without realizin . . .


Begin a Partner Appreciation Journal

Begin a Partner Appreciation Journal Buy a small notebook to keep in a bedside drawer, your purse or briefcase. Every day, write down 1 specific thing you appreciate about your partner. Continue this journal daily for a week. For the 'Advanced Challenge,' find a quiet time when your partner is relaxed and receptive and tell them: "I was just thinking about how much I appreciate you . . .


Relational Growth Challenge

Spend some time with your inner child - that little girl or boy within you who can get lost, dismissed or neglected in the busyness and noise of life's other seemingly more pressing priorities. You may want to find an old photograph of yourself at five or six years of age and connect with the feelings the picture evokes. Using your non-dominant hand, allow that child to hand write you a brief . . .